i forgot to tell you the secret signals we used at the wedding.

we figured it would be important to be able to communicate without drawing attention to ourselves, since we'd be under such tight surveillance.

the signals were as follows.

if my brother or I needed to pull the other away for a private meeting to discuss something, then we would pointedly fuss with our tie. the other would then fuss with his to signal that the message had been received.

if our dates needed to get us all into a private conference, they could whisper into our ears, because that's what girls do at weddings. then my brother and i would do the fussing with the tie bit to make the signal complete.

if everything was going terrible at the wedding and I needed to just totally outright bail on the whole thing, I would take off my glasses, wipe the sweat from my brow and say "boy are my arms tired!"

we would then skedaddle.

oh also there was one where if i was having a hard time and needed help, either emotionally or conversationally, i would fuss with my cufflinks and someone would come rescue me. as it turned, i was absentmindedly fussing with my cufflinks all day anyway, having never worn them before.

i think that was it.